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LGBTQ Relationships

While the dynamics of intimate partner violence in LGBTQ relationships are the same as those in heterosexual relationships, homophobia, heterosexism and transphobia offer unique tactics abusers can use and create extra barriers for victims/survivors.

Abusive partners may:

  • Deny the situation based on the false notion that abuse only happens between a man and a woman.
  • Threaten to “out” their partner if they have not publicly revealed their sexual orientation or gender identity, which could mean losing friends, not being accepted in their faith communities, and experiencing discrimination at work.
  • Tell partner they will be in trouble because they look more “masculine”; or because they do not fit into society’s traditional gender roles.

Victims may:

  • Try to hide the abuse to prevent tarnishing the image of the LGBTQ community.
  • Be reluctant to seek help from law enforcement and other systems because of the fear of being discriminated against or mistreated just because of who they are.
  • Be unaware that domestic violence organizations offer services for women and men regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity.

Resources for people experiencing violence in an LGBTQ relationship

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