While the dynamics of intimate partner violence in LGBTQ relationships are the same as those in heterosexual relationships, there are unique tactics abusers can use in an LGBTQ relationship that are related to how society treats the LGBTQ community (homophobia and heterosexism). This includes:
Denying the situation based on the false notion that abuse only happens between a man and a woman.
The victim may even try to hide the abuse to prevent tarnishing the image of the LGBTQ community.
Threatening to “out” partner if they have not publicly revealed their sexual identity, which could mean losing friends, not being accepted in their faith communities, and experiencing discrimination at work.
Telling partner they will be in trouble because they look more “masculine”; or because they do not fit into society’s traditional gender roles.
Most services are, or seem to be, for heterosexual women.
These potential barriers may dissuade or prevent LGBTQ victims of abuse from reaching out for help.
Resources for people experiencing violence in an LGBTQ relationship